Monday, March 15, 2010

He says it like he thinks it


And before I knew it I was just being...me.
I wasn’t doing the figure-out-what-he-likes-about-me-and-emphasize-it routine.
I wasn’t hiding anything.
He was honest; without thinking, I was too.

I've told you here before that Dan and I met on a blind date, after 2 weeks of phone calls & emails initiated by my cousin giving him my phone number, predicting we’d be a good match though we were complete strangers, living in different states.

Less than 12 hours after the place closed and ended our date, he called me to say,
I had a really great time with you.”
I think I fell in love with him in that moment.
Vulnerable. Honest.

As a follow-up to date #2, before I got on the airplane back to D.C., I sent him a snail mail card that read
“I smiled the whole way home”.

On our 3rd date, he said something like “I enjoy being with you more than anyone ever before. Do you plan to keep traveling or will anything make you move back here? I'm just wondering what we’re getting into.”
No games.

6 months later, when he knelt down in Central Park with the ring that blinded me, he simply asked,
“Tina, will you marry me?”
No fluff.

He says what he means.
Don't ask me how long it took me to trust that.
How many ridiculous arguments we got into because I'd "read into" what he said or worse, what he did.

And if depending on his comfort ability with the group, he barely screens. Our poor family.
So, sometimes his honesty means I'm embarrassed.
Sometimes his honesty means I have to take a big gulp & accept the truth, the conviction.

But sometimes his honesty makes me feel like the luckiest girl in the world.
Like the other day,
I met him for lunch spontaneously after working out.
No makeup. Not even my best exercise outfit.
When we sat down at the table, I apologized
I'm sorry I look so bad
And he responded without a beat,
Tina. It's so funny that you say stuff like that to me. When I look at you I think one of two things: ‘my wife is pretty’ or ‘my wife looks really pretty today’”
And then I forgive him for calling me out for judging this or that person.
And for telling my girlfriend at church that he wants a “full frontal” hug, not a “church hug.”

ps: don't you love that photo above?!
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3 comments:

  1. Tina,
    This is so funny! I always remember in times spent with you guys laughing at some of the things Dan would say. Paul is the same way, always honest, even when sometimes it makes you cringe a little one time and smile all day the next...

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  2. Great post. That last paragraph is hilarious

    cheri

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  3. Tina, we just love Dan! And you too!

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