Friday, July 24, 2009

Summer Snacking

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Thursday, July 16, 2009

Unfaithfully Yours

If you know me at all, you can imagine my intrigue when I saw TIME Magazine's cover for July 13, 2009 peering through my mail pile.
Caitlin Flanagan (whom I have yet to Google, to better understand her framework) writes on how "infidelity is eroding our most sacred institution" and "how to make marriage matter again" to quote the cover.

Here is an excerpt: "America's obsession with high-profile marriage flameouts — the Gosselins and the Sanfords and the Edwardses — reflects a collective ambivalence toward the institution: our wish that we could land ourselves in a lasting union, mixed with our feeling of vindication, or even relief, when a standard bearer for the "traditional family" fails to pull it off.

It is time instead to come to terms with both our unrealistic expectations for a happy marriage and our equally unrealistic beliefs about the consequences of walking away from the families we build.

The fundamental question we must ask this: What is the purpose of marriage?

Is it...simply an institution that has the capacity to increase the pleasure of the adults who enter into it?

If so, we might as well hold the wake now: there probably aren't many people whose idea of 24-hour-a-day good times consists of being yoked to the same romantic partner, through bouts of stomach flu and depression, financial setbacks and emotional upsets, until after many a long decade, one or the other eventually dies in harness.

Or is marriage an institution that still hews to its old intention and function — to raise the next generation, to protect and teach it, to instill in it the habits of conduct and character that will ensure the generation's own safe passage into adulthood?

Think of it this way: the current generation of children, the one watching commitments between adults snap like dry twigs and observing parents who simply can't be bothered to marry each other and who hence drift in and out of their children's lives — that's the generation who will be taking care of us when we are old."
Once I process, I'm sure I'll post my thoughts on this article.
What do you think? I love to hear your comments!

I'm thinking my unsettled feeling toward commending this author, has something to do with the absence of Christ.
"Praise the Lord!
How joyful are those who fear the Lord and delight in obeying his commands.
Their children will be successful everywhere..." (Ps 112: 1&2)
Blessing on the generation comes through obeying His commands?
Commands like...
"Give honor to your marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage.
God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery" (Heb 13:4)
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Tuesday, July 7, 2009

4th of July

That's the thing about living over 1,000 miles from your family.
Holidays are tough.
When you each grew up associating holidays with family and friends and food in abundance, establishing new traditions as a party of 4 requires reinvention.

As each holiday approaches, I get a bit anxious. How will we reinvent? I try not to romanticize family gatherings, as if idyllic. I try to remember that even if we did live near family, we'd likely be trying to fit traditions to our new family, perhaps even with a bit of a fight.

We moved away & started a family 4 years ago this month. For every holiday, a provision; a blessing; great memories. This past weekend was no exception.

We had some of the best party of 4 moments to date. Like many holidays since we moved here, we were invited by friends to share in their family's celebration.

Carter had an absolute blast! (as you can see below)

He loves the patriotic shirt his new little friend made for him. He was mesmerized by the fireworks that he was able to light himself. He was dancing & just could hardly contain his joy all night long.
Sometimes celebrating with someone else's family makes us miss our own even more. Sometimes I want to kick myself for taking those "same old same old" meals w/a side of banter for granted.
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Wednesday, July 1, 2009

take your sin and go elsewhere

You may have heard the news that broke out of Indiana yesterday about the former pastor & his three sons facing felony counts regarding their faith-based ponzi scheme. You can read it here. According to reports,
"The Reeves allegedly committed affinity fraud by duping investors into buying bonds that raised at least $120 million. The stated purpose for the vast majority of the bonds was to supposedly finance church construction and expansion. However, the Reeves allegedly shuffled this money among various accounts and stole approximately $6 million for themselves in the process."
I have to admit I heard this & immediately said to myself, "As if Christians do not have enough of a hard time conveying the message of Jesus Christ! Why don't these kinds of people just take their sin & go elsewhere?!"
And just as soon as that thought raged in me, I felt the Holy Spirit quicken me to remember "people need a Savior". We need a Savior.

Because I accepted Christ as my Lord many years ago, I think I sometimes get thinking that I no longer need a Savior. When actually I need a Savior daily-salvation from my own sinful nature. Saving grace from the Devils schemes.

In case you thought the people that stand on the platform at your church each week are actually good people without Jesus, only needing him for miracles, think again. As a platform gal myself, friends with many who take front & center stage across our country, I can tell you, these "people need a Savior" just like everybody else.

And don't be fooled into believing that appearing like a Christian; shedding drugs & drinking, donating time or money to charity, and even being an active member of your church sustains you.

It's not what we don't do or even what we do that saves us!

And we can't please Him without His saving grace.

It's CRAZY to walk around thinking we can pull this Godly thing off on our own.
That's just what the Devil wants you to get trapped into. Trust me, it's a lesson I have learned over & over.

There is danger in knowing how to put on a "church face".
Be transparent.
Be authentic. Establish accountability. Speak the truth, in love.

Why pretend?

In the face of this tragic report, this is what the Lord requires of us:

"O people, the Lord has told you what is good,
and this is what he requires of you:
to do what is right, to love mercy,
and to walk humbly with your God." Micah 6:8
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