Thursday, July 16, 2009

Unfaithfully Yours

If you know me at all, you can imagine my intrigue when I saw TIME Magazine's cover for July 13, 2009 peering through my mail pile.
Caitlin Flanagan (whom I have yet to Google, to better understand her framework) writes on how "infidelity is eroding our most sacred institution" and "how to make marriage matter again" to quote the cover.

Here is an excerpt: "America's obsession with high-profile marriage flameouts — the Gosselins and the Sanfords and the Edwardses — reflects a collective ambivalence toward the institution: our wish that we could land ourselves in a lasting union, mixed with our feeling of vindication, or even relief, when a standard bearer for the "traditional family" fails to pull it off.

It is time instead to come to terms with both our unrealistic expectations for a happy marriage and our equally unrealistic beliefs about the consequences of walking away from the families we build.

The fundamental question we must ask this: What is the purpose of marriage?

Is it...simply an institution that has the capacity to increase the pleasure of the adults who enter into it?

If so, we might as well hold the wake now: there probably aren't many people whose idea of 24-hour-a-day good times consists of being yoked to the same romantic partner, through bouts of stomach flu and depression, financial setbacks and emotional upsets, until after many a long decade, one or the other eventually dies in harness.

Or is marriage an institution that still hews to its old intention and function — to raise the next generation, to protect and teach it, to instill in it the habits of conduct and character that will ensure the generation's own safe passage into adulthood?

Think of it this way: the current generation of children, the one watching commitments between adults snap like dry twigs and observing parents who simply can't be bothered to marry each other and who hence drift in and out of their children's lives — that's the generation who will be taking care of us when we are old."
Once I process, I'm sure I'll post my thoughts on this article.
What do you think? I love to hear your comments!

I'm thinking my unsettled feeling toward commending this author, has something to do with the absence of Christ.
"Praise the Lord!
How joyful are those who fear the Lord and delight in obeying his commands.
Their children will be successful everywhere..." (Ps 112: 1&2)
Blessing on the generation comes through obeying His commands?
Commands like...
"Give honor to your marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage.
God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery" (Heb 13:4)
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  1. yikes...that's a lot to take in...what an example people are setting for future generations!

  2. WOW, that is a lot to take in...good article though. I think most people don't really think about the example they are setting for the next generation...they are only thinking of "what's in it for me"? SO SAD!!! How much more of an impact we could be if we actually asked the question "what's in it for the next generation"


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